tag: Automatically limit to messages whose tags will actually change.

This optimizes the user's tagging query to exclude messages that won't
be affected by the tagging operation, saving computation and IO for
redundant tagging operations.

For example,
  notmuch tag +notmuch to:notmuch@notmuchmail.org
will now use the query
  ( to:notmuch@notmuchmail.org ) and (not tag:"notmuch")

In the past, we've often suggested that people do this exact
transformation by hand for slow tagging operations.  This makes that
unnecessary.